Have you ever seen a man hold open the door for his wife of nearly 20 years and wonder how they keep the
magic alive? Ever seen a woman blush and smile while holding the hand of her beau out in public as if this was her first date? Or how about ever seeing a man’s chest rise and fall on every word spoken from the lips of his woman sitting across the table from him? And you wonder, “Will I ever get that passion in my relationship?” “Will I ever have someone look at me that way…..as if I was the only person that existed in his Universe?” Smile………. I would dare to say that we have all been there, been in that corner of our minds where we long for greater passion and intimacy…..where we long to be connected and intimately intertwined in the life of another….where our absence absolutely affects the heart of another and where our presence creates a sense of satisfaction in the heart of another…………….. I reckon that the feeling that many of us are looking for is not always something that just happens……It can…..but I would venture to say that we have to make it a practice to SEIZE THE MOMENT! Seizing the moment involves being very aware of your lover’s heart……what makes her or him smile? What little act of graciousness causes a twinkle in their eyes? What little gesture allows your lover to know that you are intimately connected to their thoughts and dreams? How many minutes can you set aside to say “ I love you,” over and over again without using words. The whole act of seizing the moments of our lover’s heart creates a plateau effect of continued intimacy and passion not dependent on external features or qualities. You see, it’s the acts of affirmation that catapult your lover’s desire for you into a whole new realm. They want to desire you even more that you want to be desired. Don’t slow down in your pursuit of your partner just because you feel that you have been taken for granted. Seize this moment and time to let them know that they really do matter. So how can you seize this moment right now you ask? By apologizing first, by planning a romantic rendezvous, by opening the door, by sharing the poem you wrote about them last night for no reason, by enhancing your outward appearance, by softening your rough tone of voice, by agreeing to something that you really do not feel like doing because it really matters to your mate, by surprising him or her with their wildest fantasy, by spending uninterrupted time together away from your cell phones! LOL. There are a lot of ways to seize the moment. Take control of what happens next for you romantically without fear or hesitation…………See the opportunity in the moment and take it! I think a lot of times we fail to seize the moment because we think we have a lot of time……but do we really? Or we think that the other person should seize the moment first………We don’t want to leave our hearts dangling out there to be trampled by another…..but what if time passes you by and you lose the moment and have nothing to seize? So don’t wait for the perfect moment…..this moment right now is just as good as any!
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