Pillow Talk - Secrets to Intimacy
Secret Number One: Define your Sexual Experience Yourself!
Sex, Sex, Sex is all around us. Ideas about pleasing your mate can be easily found in book stores, online sites, in movies, on regular T.V., through conversations with our peers and even in the work place. The interesting thing I find is that we often do not talk about sex with the one we vowed to spend the rest of our lives with, the one with who we will be sexually satisfying.
It’s easy to take our cues and ideas from someone else, some previous relationship, some friend’s suggestion……… bring it into the marital bed room and wonder why our spouses end up feeling violated or trying to figure out if you have been tipping out on the side.
Sex for many has been considered “taboo” but is it really for the couple who has made a “covenant” before their God.
We should feel comfortable in asking our spouses, “how can I please you?” And we should be telling them, “It would greatly please me if you would……”
Make some plans together. Plan to talk about your sex life regularly. See it as a natural, functional part of your relationship. It is easy to take this act of marriage for granted and end up with a sexless or even unfulfilled sexual relationship. Life is too short. Enjoy the ride of intimacy. Be willing to be a part of the process of defining what it looks, tastes, and feels like in your marriage!